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Just the Way You Are-Bruno Mars(Lyrics)

Finding the freedom in Saying NO!

Most of us, from childhood on, are taught that saying yes is right and saying no is wrong. We are taught that acceding to demands allows us to avoid conflict and criticism. We are taught to please people, earn praise, and prove that we care for the important people in our lives. Yet the right to say no is indelibly intertwined with the ability to make choices. When we realize that we are limited in our options and choices by always having to say yes even when doing so is not in our interests, we are actually and effectively robbed of our ability to choose, choosing what is good for us. It is a real chalenge to learn and understand that we can and are allowed to say NO! No can be very challenging because we expect and suspect that others will reject us. How ever there is a great reward awaiting us when we learn to say NO - TRUE FREEDOM OF CHOICE.

You have to remind yourself all the time that the ability to say no is an important aspect of well-being, as it is an indication that you understand the true value of your energy, talents, and time.

There is nothing wrong with accepting or actioning the requests of others, so long as these requests are in your best interest, health and happiness. You must keep in mind that it is only when you feel and know that you have the right to say NO that you can then can say yes with utmost certainty, sincerity, and enthusiasm.

Love Others

Love can be so great! Great to give and great to recieve, but for some reason we tend to not give it to others enough. Love is amazing and should be given in abundance.


"When you make a commitment to love others, your soul readies itself for this deeper connection by filling with joy. As you give of yourself, the love inside of you grows and is never depleted even as you give love to others. Your joyfulness grows as you draw more people into your inner circle. In loving others, you manifest more love in your life, and your world is transformed. Your heart opens, and you learn to love not only the people closest to you but also the ones who need your love the most."

How to forgive......

In my life I have gone through periods of asking " Why?.....Why Me?.......Why This?.....Why Are These People Hurting Me So Much?...... And always walking around with resentment and almost hate towards a lot of people. A lot of these people were people I loved and love and I could not understand why they would want to hurt me. I could not understand or wanted to understand that I should just forgive and forget so that my life could go on. So that I could live in the moment and enjoy everyday instead of living everyday in the past.

Forgiveness did not come easy to me and I thought that I had to cling on to all the pain and hurt and resentment so that I can become a stronger person.

WOW...was I wrong. It was only when I realised that I had to FORGIVE and live each day in the moment that my life started going in the direction I have always wanted it to go. It was only then that I woke up every day ready for life and to live and laugh everyday.

It started with getting involved in Network Marketing and being sucked into a scam without me knowing it. You see we so often don't do our home work when it comes to working from home and then we land up being emotionally and financially hurt. Some people are even destroyed by this industry. While realizing that I had to be in a scam I then started searching for answers and as the Universe would want it to happen I came upon a group of people that not only taught me about Network Marketing but taught me about living everyday in the moment.

I learned how important personal development is and the importance of socializing and communicating with people who are like minded. To shut out all negative things by forgiving and moving on so I can be happy.

If you are like I use to be and you find it difficult to forgive I urge you to read on. A beautiful friend of mine send me this and when I read it I started crying remembering how I wasted time and energy by not forgiving, remembering how bitter I used to be and being grateful that I found Mentoring For Free when I did and plugged into their training for personal growth as well as Network Marketing. So here is something that we all should read........

How To Forgive (WOW)

One day a while back, a man, his heart heavy with grief, was walking in the woods. As he thought about his life this day, he knew many things were not right. He thought about those who had lied about him back when he had a job. His thoughts turned to those who had stolen his things and cheated him.

He remembered family that had passed on. His mind turned to the illness he had that no one could cure. His very soul was filled with anger, resentment and frustration. Standing there this day, searching for answers he could not find, knowing all else had failed him, he knelt at the base of an old oak tree to seek the one he knew would always be there. And with tears in his eyes, he prayed:

"Lord- You have done wonderful things for me in this life. You have told me to do many things for you, and I happily obeyed. Today, you have told me to forgive. I am sad, Lord, because I cannot. I don't know how.
It is not fair Lord. I didn't deserve these wrongs that were done against me and I shouldn't have to forgive. As perfect as your way is Lord, this one thing I cannot do, for I don't know how to forgive. My anger is so deep Lord, I fear I may not hear you, but I pray that you teach me to do this one thing I cannot do - Teach me To Forgive."

As he knelt there in the quiet shade of that old oak tree, he felt something fall onto his shoulder. He opened his eyes. Out of the corner of one eye, he saw something red on his shirt. He could not turn to see what it was because where the oak tree had been was a large square piece of wood in the ground. He raised his head and saw two feet held to the wood with a large spike through them.

He raised his head more, and tears came to his eyes as he saw Jesus hanging on a cross. He saw spikes in His hands, a gash in His side, a torn and battered body, deep thorns sunk into His head. Finally he saw the suffering and pain on His precious face. As their eyes met, the man's tears turned to sobbing, and Jesus began to speak.

"Have you ever told a lie?" He asked?
The man answered - "yes, Lord."
"Have you ever been given too much change and kept it?"

The man answered - " yes. Lord." And the man sobbed more and more."Have you ever taken something from work that wasn't yours?" Jesus asked?

And the man answered - "yes, Lord."

"Have you ever sworn, using my Father's name in vain? "

The man, crying now, answered - "yes, Lord."

As Jesus asked many more times, "Have you ever"? The man's cryingbecame uncontrollable, for he could only answer - "yes, Lord."

Then Jesus turned His head from one side to the other, and the man felt something fall on his other shoulder. He looked and saw that it was the blood of Jesus. When he looked back up, his eyes metthose of Jesus, and there was a look of love the man had never seen or known before. Jesus said, "I didn't deserve this either, but I forgive you."

It may be hard to see how you're going to get through something, but when you look back in life, you realize that through all bad as well as good there was a greater power part of your life guiding and helping you throuth each step forward.

Wishing you a life filled with beauty and forgivenss!!!

Marinda van der Brugghen

Friends are like shoes.......

I read this piece on friendship and could not help to laugh a bit and also to think a bit.... I found it to be so true and wanted to share it.  Friendship is so important in our lives and we need to cherish the ones that adds value to our lives! So here goes...

"I thought about friends as being shoes in my closet. Sometimes we keep certain shoes around because they are comfortable and they are with us in sickness and when we get up in the morning and go to bed at night--these are our best friends--the ones who see us as we really are. Then there are shoes that you buy to go with certain outfits--to me, these are friends that fit you at certain times of your life's journey, but the shoes go out of fashion or don't serve you well or the heel falls off so you just don't want to wear them any more and so you either relegate these shoes to the back of the shoe closet or you give them away. And then there are shoes that you have for particular occasions--like your running shoes or flip flops--these are friends who you do specific things with and who you enjoy being with. 

Tonight I am going to go home and look at all my shoes. I recently jettisoned some real shoes in an effort to declutter. I still have one pair of Mom's shoes. 

I've also found that friends need to be life-giving. The friends I choose to be with are the ones that want to be friends with me as much as I want to be friends with them. Friendship is two-way. It's not friendship if the "friend ship" is sailing one way! Years ago a few women that I thought were really, truly good friends just totally quit communicating with me even though I still communicated with them. I finally let go of them totally. Over a year ago, a younger woman whom I had mentored and worked with rekindled our friendship. We met monthly for breakfast. It was a few months into the rekindling that I realized she was using me to get new business contacts. When we made a date to meet at her home for dinner, with our men, she totally forgot the invitation to her home when I called to ask what I could bring to dinner. I have not spoken to her since. I realized that she didn't really want to be friends. It hurt a lot and I lost respect for her."

I will definately start looking at my friendships in a different light.  We have to choose wisely, after all the saying goes..... 'we can choose our friends but not our family'.....so lets choose the ones that fit!

Marinda van der Brugghen

What do you do with your Dreams you have for your life?

How can you achieve your Dreams for your life......

1. Focus on them,

2. dream about them,

3. talk about them,

4. breathe dreams...

ignore those who say...

"Yea, right."  or

Those who can give you a thousand reasons why your dreams will never come true.

Don't let others destroy your believe just because they don't have any dreams or because they have no believe.

You have what it takes to make all your dreams come true and to live a life that most people only dream of.  It starts with believe in yourself!  Don't let dream stealers rob you of a life beyond any ones imagination!  Just believe..............

and you'll be able to use the Law of Attraction to bring your dreams closer to you!

Color your life with the colors of the rainbow by only allowing people into your life that will support you in your dreams and that will believe in you.

Marinda van der Brugghen