How to forgive......

In my life I have gone through periods of asking " Why?.....Why Me?.......Why This?.....Why Are These People Hurting Me So Much?......  And always walking around with resentment and almost hate towards a lot of people.  A lot of these people were people I loved and love and I could not understand why they would want to hurt me. I could not understand or wanted to understand that I should just forgive and forget so that my life could go on.  So that I could live in the moment and enjoy everyday instead of living everyday in the past.

Forgiveness did not come easy to me and I thought that I had to cling on to all the pain and hurt and resentment so that I can become a stronger person.

WOW...was I wrong.  It was only when I realised that I had to FORGIVE and live each day in the moment that my life started going in the direction I have always wanted it to go. It was only then that I woke up every day ready for life and to live and laugh everyday.  

It started with getting involved in Network Marketing and being sucked into a scam without me knowing it.  You see we so often don't do our home work when it comes to working from home and then we land up being emotionally and financially hurt.  Some people are even destroyed by this industry.  While realizing that I had to be in a scam I then started searching for answers and as the Universe would want it to happen I came upon a group of people that not only taught me about Network Marketing but taught me about living everyday in the moment.  

I learned how important personal development is and the importance of socializing and communicating with people who are like minded.  To shut out all negative things by forgiving and moving on so I can be happy.

If you are like I use to be and you find it difficult to forgive I urge you to read on.  A beautiful friend of mine send me this and when I read it I started crying remembering how I wasted time and energy by not forgiving, remembering how bitter I used to be and being grateful that I found Mentoring For Free when I did and plugged into their training for personal growth as well as Network Marketing.  So here is something that we all should read........

How To Forgive (WOW)

One day a while back, a man, his heart heavy with grief, was 
walking in the woods. As he thought about his life this day, he
knew many things were not right. He thought about those who had
lied about him back when he had a job.
His thoughts turned to those who had stolen his things and cheated
him.
He remembered family that had passed on. His mind turned to the
illness he had that no one could cure. His very soul was filled
with anger, resentment and frustration.
Standing there this day, searching for answers he could not find,
knowing all else had failed him, he knelt at the base of an old oak
tree to seek the one he knew would always be there. And with tears
in his eyes, he prayed:
"Lord- You have done wonderful things for me in this life. You have
told me to do many things for you, and I happily obeyed. Today, you
have told me to forgive. I am sad, Lord, because I cannot. I don't
know how.
It is not fair Lord. I didn't deserve these wrongs that were done
against me and I shouldn't have to forgive. As perfect as your way
is Lord, this one thing I cannot do, for I don't know how to
forgive. My anger is so deep Lord, I fear I may not hear you, but I
pray that you teach me to do this one thing I cannot do - Teach me
To Forgive."

As he knelt there in the quiet shade of that old oak tree, he felt
something fall onto his shoulder. He opened his eyes. Out of the
corner of one eye, he saw something red on his shirt.
He could not turn to see what it was because where the oak tree had
been was a large square piece of wood in the ground. He raised his
head and saw two feet held to the wood with a large spike through
them.

He raised his head more, and tears came to his eyes as he saw Jesus
hanging on a cross. He saw spikes in His hands, a gash in His side,
a torn and battered body, deep thorns sunk into His head. Finally
he saw the suffering and pain on His precious face. As their eyes 
met, the man's tears turned to sobbing, and Jesus began to speak.

"Have you ever told a lie?" He asked?
The man answered - "yes, Lord."
"Have you ever been given too much change and kept it?"

The man answered - " yes. Lord." And the man sobbed more and more."Have you ever taken something from work that wasn't yours?" Jesus asked?

And the man answered - "yes, Lord."

"Have you ever sworn, using my Father's name in vain? "

The man, crying now, answered - "yes, Lord."

As Jesus asked many more times, "Have you ever"? The man's crying

became uncontrollable, for he could only answer - "yes, Lord."

Then Jesus turned His head from one side to the other, and the man felt something fall on 

his other shoulder. He looked and saw that it was the blood of Jesus. When he looked back up, his eyes met

those of Jesus, and there was a look of love the man had never seen
or known before.
Jesus said, "I didn't deserve this either, but I forgive you."
It may be hard to see how you're going to get through something, but when you look back in life, you realize how true this statement is.
Read the following first line slowly and let it sink in.
If God brings you to it - He will bring you through it.

Wishing you a life filled with beauty and forgivenss!!!

Marinda van der Brugghen

Friends are like shoes.......

I read this piece on friendship and could not help to laugh a bit and also to think a bit.... I found it to be so true and wanted to share it.  Friendship is so important in our lives and we need to cherish the ones that adds value to our lives! So here goes...

"I thought about friends as being shoes in my closet. Sometimes we keep certain shoes around because they are comfortable and they are with us in sickness and when we get up in the morning and go to bed at night--these are our best friends--the ones who see us as we really are. Then there are shoes that you buy to go with certain outfits--to me, these are friends that fit you at certain times of your life's journey, but the shoes go out of fashion or don't serve you well or the heel falls off so you just don't want to wear them any more and so you either relegate these shoes to the back of the shoe closet or you give them away. And then there are shoes that you have for particular occasions--like your running shoes or flip flops--these are friends who you do specific things with and who you enjoy being with. 

Tonight I am going to go home and look at all my shoes. I recently jettisoned some real shoes in an effort to declutter. I still have one pair of Mom's shoes. 

I've also found that friends need to be life-giving. The friends I choose to be with are the ones that want to be friends with me as much as I want to be friends with them. Friendship is two-way. It's not friendship if the "friend ship" is sailing one way! Years ago a few women that I thought were really, truly good friends just totally quit communicating with me even though I still communicated with them. I finally let go of them totally. Over a year ago, a younger woman whom I had mentored and worked with rekindled our friendship. We met monthly for breakfast. It was a few months into the rekindling that I realized she was using me to get new business contacts. When we made a date to meet at her home for dinner, with our men, she totally forgot the invitation to her home when I called to ask what I could bring to dinner. I have not spoken to her since. I realized that she didn't really want to be friends. It hurt a lot and I lost respect for her."

I will definately start looking at my friendships in a different light.  We have to choose wisely, after all the saying goes..... 'we can choose our friends but not our family'.....so lets choose the ones that fit!

Marinda van der Brugghen

What do you do with your Dreams you have for your life?

How can you achieve your Dreams for your life......

1. Focus on them,

2. dream about them,

3. talk about them,

4. breathe dreams...

ignore those who say...

"Yea, right."  or

Those who can give you a thousand reasons why your dreams will never come true.

Don't let others destroy your believe just because they don't have any dreams or because they have no believe.

You have what it takes to make all your dreams come true and to live a life that most people only dream of.  It starts with believe in yourself!  Don't let dream stealers rob you of a life beyond any ones imagination!  Just believe..............

and you'll be able to use the Law of Attraction to bring your dreams closer to you!

Color your life with the colors of the rainbow by only allowing people into your life that will support you in your dreams and that will believe in you.

Marinda van der Brugghen

I Believe!

I BELIEVE 

A Birth Certificate shows that we were born 

 

A Death Certificate shows that we died 

Pictures show that we lived! 

Have a seat . .. . Relax . . . And read this slowly. 

 

I Believe... 

That just because two people argue,

It doesn't mean they don't love each other. 

And just because they don't argue, 

It doesn't mean they do love each other. 

  

I Believe...

That we don't have to change friends if  We understand that friends change.   

I Believe...

That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that. (relatives too) 

 

I Believe....

That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.  Same goes for true love.  

I Believe... 

That you can do something in an instant That will give you heartache for life.  

 

I Believe...

That it's taking me a long time To become the person I want to be.  

I Believe...

That you should always leave loved ones with loving words.It may be the last time you see them.   

I Believe... 

That you can keep going long after you think you can't.  

 

I Believe...

That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. 

  

I Believe...

That either you control your attitude or it controls you. 

  

I Believe...

That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. 

  

I Believe...

That money is a lousy way of keeping score. (and that's the absolute truth.)  

I Believe...

That my best friend and I, can do anything, or nothing and have the best time. 

 

I Believe...

That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up. 

  

I Believe...

That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel. 

  

I Believe...

That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.   

I Believe...

That it isn't always enough, to be forgiven by others.  

Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself. (The most diffucult task you can do.) 

I Believe...

That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief. 

 

I Believe...

That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but, we are responsible for who we become. 

  

I Believe...

That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life Forever.  

 

 I Believe...

Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. 

  

I Believe...

That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.  

 

I Believe...

That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you - you will find the strength to help.

   

I Believe...

That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.  

 

I Believe...

That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon..  

 

I Believe...   

'The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything they have. 

This amazing piece was send to me by a friend and I wanted to share it with you!

Marinda van der Brugghen

 

 

Can you sleep while the wind blows?

 

Years ago, a farmer owned land along the Atlantic seacoast. 

He constantly advertised for hired hands. Most people were reluctant to work on farms along the Atlantic. They dreaded the awful storms that raged across the Atlantic, wreaking havoc on the buildings and crops. 

As the farmer interviewed applicants for the job, he received

A steady stream of refusals.

Finally, a short, thin man, well past middle age, approached the farmer. "Are you a good farm hand?" the farmer asked him. 

"Well, I can sleep when the wind blows," answered the little man.

Although puzzled by this answer, the farmer, desperate for help, Hired him. The little man worked well around the farm, busy from dawn to dusk,  and the farmer felt satisfied with the man's work. 

Then one night the wind howled loudly in from offshore. 

Jumping out of bed, the farmer grabbed a lantern and rushed next door to the hired hand's sleeping quarters. He shook the little man and yelled, "Get up!  A storm is coming! Tie things down before they blow away!" 

The little man rolled over in bed and said firmly, "No sir. I told you, I can sleep when the wind blows."

Enraged by the response, the farmer was tempted to fire him on the spot. Instead, he hurried outside to prepare for the storm. 

To his amazement, he discovered that all of the haystacks had been covered with tarpaulins. The cows were in the barn, the chickens were in the coops, and the doors were barred. The shutters were tightly secured.  Everything was tied down. 

Nothing could blow away. The farmer then understood what his hired hand meant, so he returned to his bed to also sleep while the wind blew.

When you're prepared, spiritually, mentally, and physically, you have nothing to fear. Can you sleep when the wind blows through your life? 

The hired hand in the story was able to sleep because he had secured the farm against the storm. 

We secure ourselves against the storms of life by surounding ourselves in the Word of God. We don't need to understand, we just need to hold His hand to have peace in the middle of storms. 

A friend of mine sent this to me today, and I enjoyed it so much, that I wanted to share it here on my blog. It was just what I needed today after getting some disturbing news yesterday. 

I hope you enjoy your day and you sleep well.

Marinda van der Brugghen

 

 

Living a life of fun

As parents and adults we so often get caught up in this world of 'grown up' business that we sometimes forget how to have pure child like fun.  The kind of fun that comes from a state of pure being not the kind of fun that comes from doing a specific kind of activity or having to want to be in a specific mood for fun....  No, it is the kind of fun you see in small children who are so busy being fully present in their lives and their bodies that the glow of fun just radiates from them just because they are alive.  When you look at a child  and you see the delight that flashes across his/her eyes when they discover that they can catch a ball or that jumping on moms couch is soooo much fun. That look of amazement in their eyes with the weird expression on their faces when they discover that water comes out of the tap when they turn the knob.....the squeals you here when they run and jump through the water sprayer on the lawn.....watching them watch the same hat or scarf trick for the 12th time and still finding it so amazing and showing their amazement and fun by rendering the most infectious laughter where you actually can't help but chuckling along.

When we are children we experience  everything with pure delight.  We experience it with a mindset of living in the moment, enjoying it and finding the fun in every and each situation.  You do not need to dress up and spend lots of money to have fun but somehow as adults we forget how much fun the simple things actually can be......  We need to remember and reconnect with that part of ourselves that knows how to have fun in every thing we do.  We need to take ourselves back in time and remember the things we use to love when we were children.  We need to find that inner child that we locked away somewhere inside and give it its voice again. Think back at the things that use to make you giggle and laugh with delight or the things that made you burst out into endless laughter where it was difficult to sit up or stand up straight because your whole body was partaking in this moment of fantastic joy and fun fulfillment.  That feeling of pure fun lives in you, you just have to realize that you have to call it back into your life and then never let go of it again

When we live in the moment and for the moment pure fun happens because we are fully engaged with ourselves and our surroundings.  Do you remember that natural, organic real pleasure that use to jump out from your belly engaging your whole body with enjoyment where it feels like your mouth is pulling apart at the seams and your toes want to jiggle with joy?  Do you remember that warm feeling in your soul after a outbreak of laughter were you feel that you are the king of the world?  That feeling of pure pleasure......  We need to understand and realize that pure fun is not just something that is given to us, it is something we allow for ourselves to experience by living in the moment.  We have to find the fun in everything around us and open up this glorious thing called FUN like a child at Christmas with his/her gifts under the tree......ripping of the bows of our own mind restraints that are choking fun out of our lives and tearing apart the wrapping paper we have put around it  because we can not and will not wait any longer to have it in our lives again.

Acting Aloof at times

You may feel introverted while in a crowd, which can lead you to act aloof. Even if you seem to be socializing outwardly, you could feel detached and shy inside. This can feel like a mismatch, but from this seeming contradiction can come new and interesting insights. You may be able to observe and take in what occurs on another level by being slightly removed from everyone else. You could filter your interactions by keeping all away except those energetically drawn to you. You may even discover that you can affect the energy of the space by focusing your light to bring peace to brewing conflict, comfort to sadness, or lightheartedness to misunderstanding. 

If you watch closely, you may see these people associating with those who are not an energetic match and who drain their energy or create conflict.

 By remaining detached, you have the chance to observe people for a time before engaging them. Even though you may not be conscious of it, you are energetically feeling them out, looking for someone with whom you can invest your energy wisely. By hanging back before entering the fray you will safe yourself from people who just want to drain you from your energy.

We all want to make friends but we have to choose wisely as there are so many people out there that will just drain you from your energy.  By choosing wisely you have to choose friends with the same outlook.  A mastermind group working together for the good of each member.....Now does that not sound GREAT!  People that won't drain you from energy but will fill you when you are empty.....THINK ABOUT THAT!

Are you looking for friends that are growing their businesses and giving to each other freely?

Want to get yourself motivated and passionate about your business again?  Focused and ready to achieve your dreams?!

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Marinda van der Brugghen

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