Most of us, from childhood on, are taught that saying yes is right and saying no is wrong. We are taught that acceding to demands allows us to avoid conflict and criticism. We are taught to please people, earn praise, and prove that we care for the important people in our lives. Yet the right to say no is indelibly intertwined with the ability to make choices. When we realize that we are limited in our options and choices by always having to say yes even when doing so is not in our interests, we are actually and effectively robbed of our ability to choose, choosing what is good for us. It is a real chalenge to learn and understand that we can and are allowed to say NO! No can be very challenging because we expect and suspect that others will reject us. How ever there is a great reward awaiting us when we learn to say NO - TRUE FREEDOM OF CHOICE.
You have to remind yourself all the time that the ability to say no is an important aspect of well-being, as it is an indication that you understand the true value of your energy, talents, and time.
There is nothing wrong with accepting or actioning the requests of others, so long as these requests are in your best interest, health and happiness. You must keep in mind that it is only when you feel and know that you have the right to say NO that you can then can say yes with utmost certainty, sincerity, and enthusiasm.
